Most narcissist tests ask you to evaluate someone else. This one asks you to look in the mirror. Each answer carries a weighted score. Answer honestly — nobody will see your results.
You’re telling a story at dinner and someone interrupts you. Your honest reaction is…
A little annoyed, but I let it go and circle back later.
Frustrated — I make sure to finish my story even if I have to talk over them.
Furious. How dare they interrupt me? I make it clear that was rude.
A friend gets promoted at work. Deep down, your first honest thought is…
Good for them — they worked hard and deserved it.
Happy for them, but I can’t help comparing their success to mine.
Why them and not me? I’m more talented. They just got lucky.
Your partner tells you that something you did hurt their feelings. You…
Listen, try to understand their perspective, and apologize sincerely.
Feel defensive at first, but eventually acknowledge their feelings.
Tell them they’re overreacting. You didn’t do anything wrong.
You made a mistake at work that affected the team. You…
Own it immediately, apologize, and focus on fixing it.
Acknowledge it, but also point out the factors that weren’t your fault.
Find a way to shift the blame. It wasn’t really your mistake.
When you look in the mirror, you honestly think…
I look fine. Some days better than others — pretty normal.
I look good. I spend more time on my appearance than most people realize.
I look great. I’m definitely more attractive than most people around me.
Someone gives you constructive criticism about your work. Your gut reaction is…
Appreciate it — feedback helps me improve.
Sting. I know they might be right, but it bothers me more than it should.
Who are THEY to criticize ME? They don’t know what they’re talking about.
In group conversations, you tend to…
Listen and contribute when I have something valuable to add.
Talk more than I listen. I catch myself steering conversations to my own experiences.
Dominate. I’m usually the most interesting person in the room.
When someone is crying or visibly upset in front of you, you honestly feel…
Genuine empathy — their pain affects me emotionally.
Uncomfortable. I want to help but I don’t always know how to connect.
Annoyed or impatient. I wish they’d pull themselves together.
You’re in an argument with someone close to you. How does it usually end?
We talk it through until we both feel heard.
I usually win the argument, but sometimes I feel guilty afterward.
I don’t stop until they admit I’m right.
Be honest: how often do you lie or exaggerate to make yourself look better?
Rarely. I’m pretty straightforward about who I am.
More than I’d like to admit. Small exaggerations here and there.
Frequently. I reshape stories and inflate achievements.
When someone doesn’t text you back quickly, you think…
They’re probably busy. I’ll hear back when they’re free.
I notice it and it bothers me, but I try not to overthink it.
They’re being disrespectful. I might pull away to punish them.
How do you feel about apologizing?
It’s not fun, but I do it when I’m wrong.
I can do it, but the words feel forced. I often add justifications.
I almost never apologize. If I do, it’s strategic.
When you walk into a room full of people, you expect…
Nothing in particular. I just hope for good conversations.
To make a good impression. I’m aware of how people perceive me.
To be noticed and admired. If I’m not getting attention, something feels wrong.
Someone close to you sets a boundary you don’t like. You…
Respect it, even if I’m disappointed. Their comfort matters.
Respect it outwardly, but feel resentful or try to negotiate around it.
Ignore it, guilt-trip them, or make them feel bad for setting it.
At the end of most days, how often do you think about how your actions affected others?
Often. I care about how I make people feel.
Sometimes, but usually only when someone points it out.
Rarely. I’m more focused on how others treated ME.
Score 15-22: Low Narcissistic Traits — You’re More Self-Aware Than You Think
Books to Continue Your Growth:
1. The Psychology of the Empath and the Narcissist by Daniel Bulmez
2. The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
3. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry
Score 23-33: Some Narcissistic Tendencies — Room for Growth
Books to Help You Grow:
1. The Psychology of the Empath and the Narcissist by Daniel Bulmez
2. Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin
3. Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson
Score 34-45: Significant Narcissistic Patterns — This Deserves Attention
Essential Books:
1. The Psychology of the Empath and the Narcissist by Daniel Bulmez
2. Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin
3. Why Is It Always About You? by Sandy Hotchkiss
