Narcissist Test: Is Someone in Your Life a Narcissist?

Listen to your perspective and try to find common ground.

Get defensive and turn the conversation back to themselves.

Rage, shut you down, or twist your words until you apologize for bringing it up.

Energized, supported, or neutral — like a normal interaction.

Slightly drained or confused about what just happened.

Emotionally exhausted, anxious, or questioning your own reality.

Celebrates with you and seems genuinely happy.

Acknowledges it briefly, then redirects the conversation to themselves.

Minimizes your achievement, competes with it, or finds a way to make it about them.

Admit it, apologize, and try to make things right.

Deflect or make excuses, rarely giving a straight apology.

Deny it completely, gaslight you, or turn it around so YOU end up apologizing.

May be disappointed but handle it maturely.

Sulk, give the silent treatment, or become passive-aggressive.

Explode, punish you emotionally, or manipulate until they win.

Share the spotlight — they listen as much as they talk.

Dominate the conversation, often steering it back to their own experiences.

Monologue about themselves, interrupt you constantly, or show zero interest in your life.

Shows genuine concern and offers real support.

Listens for a bit, then shifts the focus to their own problems.

Dismisses your feelings, tells you you’re overreacting, or uses your vulnerability against you later.

Politely and respectfully — they treat everyone as equals.

Generally okay, but can be dismissive or impatient when things don’t go their way.

Rudely, condescendingly, or with a sense of entitlement.

Respect it, even if they don’t fully agree.

Push back, guilt-trip you, or test the boundary repeatedly.

Ignore it completely, punish you for setting it, or act like YOU are the problem.

They consider it thoughtfully and don’t take it too personally.

They get noticeably upset or defensive, even over small things.

They react with rage, counter-attack, or hold a grudge.

No — we may remember things differently, but they don’t make me doubt myself.

Occasionally. Sometimes I wonder if I’m being too sensitive or misremembering.

Regularly. I’ve started second-guessing my own memory, feelings, and perception of reality.

Friendly and genuine — the relationship developed naturally over time.

Very charming and attentive, but the intensity faded quickly.

Incredibly intense — showering you with attention (love-bombing), then suddenly pulling away.

Take responsibility and work to repair the damage.

Minimize it or play the victim.

Flip it so that YOU are the one apologizing. Their hurtful behavior becomes your fault.

Pretty consistent — what you see is what you get.

Somewhat different. More charming in public, more critical in private.

Two completely different people. Adored in public, cruel behind closed doors.

Hopeful and secure — we have a healthy foundation.

Uncertain. Good moments keep you hoping, but the bad moments are getting worse.

Trapped. You want to leave but feel paralyzed by guilt, fear, or the belief that you can’t survive without them.