What’s Your Love Language? Discover How You Give and Receive Love
According to Ipsos research from 2024, 83% of married and partnered people are satisfied with feeling loved — but only 67% of single people feel the same way. The difference? Understanding how to express and receive love effectively. Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages framework, now backed by relationship science research, reveals that all expressions of affection positively relate to relationship satisfaction, regardless of your dominant preference.
The four core love languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch, and Acts of Service. While you may feel loved in multiple ways, most people have one primary language that speaks to them most deeply. When partners understand each other’s love languages, relationship satisfaction increases dramatically because they can express care in ways that truly resonate.
How This Love Language Quiz Works
Answer 15 questions about what makes you feel most loved and valued in relationships. Think about your genuine reactions and preferences — not what you think sounds “right.” Your result will reveal your primary love language type along with specific strategies for communicating your needs and understanding your partner better.
What would make you feel most loved on a difficult day?
Your partner tells you how much you mean to them and how proud they are of you
Your partner sits with you, listens, and gives you their full attention
Your partner holds you, hugs you, or gives you a comforting massage
Your partner takes care of something you've been worried about without being asked
Which anniversary gesture would mean the most to you?
Your partner plans and handles everything — you don't have to worry about any details
A heartfelt letter expressing everything your partner loves about you
A weekend getaway with no distractions — just the two of you
An evening of physical closeness and intimate connection
When your partner wants to show love, what do you hope they’ll do?
Initiate physical affection — holding hands, cuddling, or intimate moments
Do something thoughtful that makes your life easier or better
Tell you specifically what they admire about you and why you're special
Put away their phone and focus completely on being with you
What hurts your feelings most in a relationship?
When your partner is always distracted or doesn't make time for you
When your partner criticizes you or doesn't acknowledge your efforts
When your partner doesn't help or follow through on commitments
When your partner is physically distant or avoids affection
How do you naturally show love to others?
I do things for them — help with tasks, solve problems, make life easier
I'm naturally affectionate — I hug, touch, and show physical closeness
I make sure to spend quality one-on-one time together regularly
I tell them how much I appreciate them and compliment them often
Which gesture from a new romantic interest would excite you most?
They send a thoughtful text about something they admire about you
They offer to help you with something you mentioned you were stressed about
They find subtle ways to be physically close — a touch on the arm, sitting near you
They suggest an activity where you can talk and really get to know each other
When you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, what would help most?
More physical intimacy and affection in your daily routine
Having a conversation where they express how much they value the relationship
Planning an activity where you can reconnect without outside interruptions
Your partner stepping up to handle things that have been bothering you
What makes you feel most secure in a relationship?
Consistent quality time together where you're both fully present
Your partner reliably following through on what they say they'll do
Regular verbal reassurance about how your partner feels about you
Physical closeness and affection throughout the day
Which scenario would feel like the most meaningful surprise?
Your partner handles all your weekend responsibilities so you can relax
Your partner clears their schedule to spend an entire day focused on you
Your partner writes you a note listing all the reasons they love you
Your partner greets you with a long embrace and doesn't let go
When you argue with your partner, what helps you feel better afterward?
When they physically comfort you with a hug or gentle touch
When they acknowledge your perspective and verbally affirm their commitment
When they take action to address the issue that caused the conflict
When you spend time together talking it through without rushing
What would you want most from your partner during a stressful time at work?
Their undivided attention while you talk through the situation
Physical comfort — back rubs, hugs, or just sitting close together
Encouragement and reminders of your strengths and past successes
Practical help — cooking dinner, handling errands, or managing other tasks
Which would be the most romantic evening for you?
Your partner shares what they love most about you and your future together
A quiet evening with no distractions where you can really connect
An evening focused on physical intimacy and affection
Your partner handles everything — they plan, cook, and create the perfect atmosphere
What do you appreciate most about thoughtful friends or family?
They notice when you need help and offer assistance without being asked
They tell you how much you mean to them and celebrate your achievements
They make time to really listen and be present when you need them
They greet you with warm hugs and are physically affectionate
When you think about your ideal relationship, what stands out most?
Natural physical affection and intimacy woven throughout daily life
Quality time together where you're both fully engaged and present
A partner who consistently shows love through helpful actions and reliability
Regular expressions of love, appreciation, and verbal affection
Which statement resonates most with how you experience love?
I feel most loved when someone gives me their undivided attention
I feel most loved when someone takes action to help and support me
I feel most loved when someone tells me exactly how they feel about me
I feel most loved through physical closeness and affectionate touch
Words of Affirmation
Your Love Language: Words That Heal and Inspire
You feel most loved through verbal expressions of affection, appreciation, and encouragement. Compliments, love notes, verbal affirmations, and hearing ‘I love you’ regularly fill your emotional tank. You thrive when partners express their feelings openly and acknowledge your efforts.
Your Strengths
- You’re emotionally expressive and comfortable sharing feelings
- You naturally encourage and uplift others with your words
- You create emotional intimacy through meaningful conversations
- You’re sensitive to the power of language in relationships
Your Blind Spots
- Criticism and harsh words hurt you more deeply than most people realize
- You may need more verbal reassurance than partners naturally give
- You might misinterpret silence as rejection or disinterest
- You could overlook non-verbal expressions of love from others
How to Channel This
Communicate your need for verbal affirmation clearly but without pressure. Help partners understand that words matter deeply to you — both positive and negative. Practice recognizing love expressed through actions, time, and touch even when words aren’t present. Great relationships include multiple love languages working together, and your gift for verbal expression makes you a natural at articulating what others feel but can’t say.
Ready to Talk to Someone? If you want to understand your patterns more deeply, talking to a professional can help. See our recommended therapy options →
Quality Time
Your Love Language: Presence Over Presents
You feel most loved when someone gives you their undivided attention and focused time together. Phone-free conversations, shared activities, and being truly present mean everything to you. You value deep connection over grand gestures or expensive gifts.
Your Strengths
- You’re fully present when spending time with people you love
- You create deep connections through meaningful shared experiences
- You’re excellent at listening and making others feel heard
- You prioritize relationships over material things or achievements
Your Blind Spots
- You may feel unloved when partners are distracted or multitasking
- You might interpret busy schedules as lack of caring
- You could undervalue other expressions of love like acts of service or verbal affirmation
- You may struggle when partners show love through actions rather than presence
How to Channel This
Be direct about your need for quality time without making it feel like a demand. Help partners understand that presence matters more than productivity to you. Learn to appreciate love expressed through other languages, especially when time is genuinely limited. Create rituals that guarantee focused time together regularly — even 15 minutes of undivided attention daily can transform a relationship.
Ready to Talk to Someone? If you want to understand your patterns more deeply, talking to a professional can help. See our recommended therapy options →
Acts of Service
Your Love Language: Love in Action
You feel most loved when someone takes action to help, support, or serve you in practical ways. Whether it’s handling chores, solving problems, or taking care of responsibilities, you interpret helpful actions as genuine expressions of care and commitment. For you, love isn’t what people say — it’s what they do.
Your Strengths
- You’re incredibly reliable and follow through on commitments
- You notice what needs to be done and take care of it without being asked
- You show love through practical support and problem-solving
- You’re highly dependable and create security for others
Your Blind Spots
- You may feel unloved when partners don’t help or follow through
- You might interpret laziness or unreliability as lack of caring
- You could undervalue emotional expressions that aren’t backed by action
- You may become resentful if you’re always the one taking care of everything
How to Channel This
Communicate your appreciation for helpful actions while also recognizing love expressed through words, time, and touch. Don’t keep score — focus on patterns of care rather than individual instances. Help partners understand which actions matter most to you, and be specific about what feels supportive versus overwhelming. The strongest relationships combine your action-oriented love with emotional expression.
Ready to Talk to Someone? If you want to understand your patterns more deeply, talking to a professional can help. See our recommended therapy options →
Physical Touch
Your Love Language: Connection Through Touch
You feel most loved through physical affection — hugs, holding hands, cuddling, and intimate moments. Physical touch is how you both give and receive emotional connection. You’re naturally affectionate and thrive with partners who are comfortable with physical expression.
Your Strengths
- You’re naturally warm and affectionate with people you care about
- You provide comfort and reassurance through physical presence
- You’re highly attuned to non-verbal emotional cues
- You create strong emotional bonds through physical intimacy
Your Blind Spots
- You may feel rejected when partners need space or aren’t naturally touchy
- You might misread someone’s love language if they’re not physically affectionate
- You could struggle with partners who express love primarily through words or actions
- You may take physical distance personally when it’s not about you
How to Channel This
Respect others’ boundaries around physical touch while communicating your needs clearly. Understand that not everyone expresses love physically — learn to recognize care shown through other languages. Create safe spaces where physical affection feels natural and welcomed, not pressured. Balance physical closeness with emotional and intellectual intimacy for the deepest connections.
Ready to Talk to Someone? If you want to understand your patterns more deeply, talking to a professional can help. See our recommended therapy options →
Take More Quizzes
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Frequently Asked Questions
What are the love languages and which is most common?
The four core love languages are Words of Affirmation (verbal expressions), Quality Time (focused attention), Physical Touch (affection and closeness), and Acts of Service (helpful actions). Research suggests Quality Time and Words of Affirmation tend to be the most common primary languages, though all four are equally valid ways to express and receive love.
Can your love language change over time?
Yes, your primary love language can shift based on life circumstances, relationship experiences, and personal growth. Major life events, different relationship stages, and even seasonal stress can temporarily change what makes you feel most loved. That’s why it’s important to check in with yourself and your partner regularly about how you both prefer to give and receive love.
What if my partner and I have different love languages?
Different love languages are actually quite common and can strengthen relationships when both partners understand each other’s needs. The key is learning to “speak” your partner’s language while also communicating your own needs clearly. Recent research shows that any expression of love positively impacts relationship satisfaction, so the goal isn’t perfect matching — it’s intentional effort to love each other in meaningful ways.
